Imposter Syndrome

Have you ever heard of “imposter syndrome?” 

It can be defined as a collection of feelings of inadequacy that persist despite evident success. 

Imposters suffer from chronic self-doubt and a sense of intellectual fraudulence that override any feelings of success or external proof of their competence.

I want you to notice a very key and important word in that definition, and that is the word feelings.

How you FEEL is the direct result of what you THOUGHT. 

And no, not just the cliche, think positive and your life will be great – yay! 

I’m talking about the check-in you have with yourself when you notice that you feel “off.”

Circular Thinking

You only feel a certain way because of what you thought before that. 

If your thoughts aren’t in alignment with what you want in life, your feelings are not going to be in alignment either. 

And when your feelings aren’t in alignment, your behavior isn’t either. 

When you behave a certain way, you get certain results.

It’s the fun circle of life and a sure way to avoid imposter syndrome.

But it doesn’t have to be a repetitive – no getting out – circle.

It can be one where you take control, based on your choice and accountability.

Thoughts matter

How does one enhance their feelings? 

Change your thoughts. 

If you think in a way that doesn’t serve you – you go down a rabbit hole of thoughts like… what if I fail… what if this doesn’t work… am I smart enough?… I’ve not done this before… yeah right, it must be too good to be true… 

STOP

Ask yourself what the opposite thought would be. 

What if I succeed… what if this DOES work… I AM smart enough… I can do this… This is good FOR me… 

Which phrases FEEL better to you? And again, when you are in a circle of good and uplifted thoughts, you’re motivated, inspired, and active.

And when you actively feel inspired and motivated, for example, you then behave as a motivated and inspired person, no?

Results

What would happen if you always FELT motivated and inspired? 

You’d probably laugh at thoughts like “I can’t do it” or “I’m scared”, right? You’d walk right through them and let those thoughts hit hard on the way out the door.

Change that thinking

So, how does one change their thoughts? 

Because I know if you’re anything like me, it’s not always “easy” to just say, OKAY BRAIN, REROUTE! 

Sometimes it takes some barriers to be lifted. These barriers are what causes your terror, your fear, your doubt. 

The only way to break down those barriers is through repetition and regular check-ins.

Like the one saying goes, “life begins at the end of your comfort zone.” You get to take the step into the unknown because that’s the only way to grow.

The reason you have those barriers in the first place is because of how you have been conditioned.

You were born into a specific family with specific thoughts and patterns. 

You were conditioned to believe and feel in certain ways because that’s what you saw happen and you mirrored it. 

It’s not because those ways are right or wrong, it’s because those ways are the best those people had at the time. 

But we all have the power to change and embrace growth.

Creation ends imposter syndrome

What you think, you create. And as my favorite definition goes, to create means to bring into existence. 

What do you create when you go down a rabbit hole of negative thoughts?

There is freedom waiting for you, on the breezes of the sky, and you ask, ‘What if I fall?’

Oh, but my darling, what if you fly?

-Erin Hanson

You won’t know how high you can fly, if your wings are stronger than before, or if you can go to places you’ve not been, unless you take that step. 

Soaring eagles didn’t happen by chance. They happened because of their willingness to leave the nest, their home – their “comfort zone” – and break away from their everyday scene. 

Is imposter syndrome real inside of you? Take the first step – just one – and see how it feels.


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